Day 21: What three lessons do you want your children to learn from you?
When you see the word “children” and it makes your nose wrinkle slightly in…maybe not disgust but a strong feeling that’s not happiness…you probably aren’t meant to have children. I know, I know–your own kid is different and a miracle and your life will change. Yes, I have no doubt my life would change, and definitely for the better in some ways, but do I “want” kids? Not right now, maybe not ever. Does that make me a selfish person? Well, not that by itself. 🙂
But if I was going to have children, here are three things I’d want them to learn from me.
1. Being different isn’t a bad thing: We spend so much time, especially when we’re younger, trying to fit in with the rest of the herd. Being different means that you’re a target, that you can be more easily cast aside.
But it also means that you’re unique and that you don’t need to follow along with what the group is doing. There are many ways you could be born different or become different and none of them are bad (unless you’re different because you’re a murderer or arsonist, etc.). Learning that being different is a strength gives you power. Embrace your individuality! It reminds me of this quote:
2. Reading is important: My husband doesn’t read books (this might be his only flaw). He sometimes listens to audiobooks but rarely, and not for fun. I would want to teach my child(ren) how books can let you explore places you haven’t been, or maybe can’t ever visit. I would want them to open themselves up to new concepts through reading. If they ultimately don’t like it that’s their choice, but I would kick myself if I didn’t show that world to them.
3. Everything seems smooth in hindsight: As you’re living your life, things might seem exceptionally challenging at one point or another. You might stop and think, “Why was it so easy for [person’s name] to do this and I can’t?” or “I’ll never get to [some place or position or whatever]”. Try not to compare yourself to others because you have no idea where they came from or if they had extra help along the way. Looking ahead, the waters are often choppy. It’s only when you look back and see where you’ve come from that it seems relatively smooth. Don’t give up!
What advice would you want to pass down, or are you passing down, to your kids?